Relationships and Banking

August 2, 2010

You’ve probably heard this analogy before – relationships are like bank accounts. Couples therapists often use this explanation to help people conceptualize what they do (and don’t do) in relationships,…

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Grief and Loss

In her 2005 memoir “The Year of Magical Thinking,” recounting both joyful and painful memories of love and loss in her family, the writer and author Joan Didion counsels readers…

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Helping Children Grieve: Expressing Emotions, Affirming the Universal

June 14, 2010

It is a Tuesday evening in January, 2010. The room is abuzz with the energy of 12 children, ages 7-9, who show up in this large room most weeks from…

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What to do When Your Friends are Getting a Divorce (Part 3)

May 17, 2010

In parts one and two, we touched on some ways for Ann to explore and cope with her experience of Mary and Andy’s divorce. This last part will look at…

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What to do When Your Friends are Getting a Divorce (Part 2)

May 10, 2010

In Part 1, we noted some of the feelings which Ann might experience as she copes with the news that her friends, Mary and Andy are in the process of…

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What to do When Your Friends are Getting a Divorce (Part 1)

Jim and Ann are a couple in their 30’s with 3 small children. They have been part of a group of friends since college. Their social life, both individually and…

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Tuning Our Instruments

April 12, 2010

“We’re just not compatible anymore” is a phrase often heard in counseling sessions. And often, as the dialogue deepens, the one speaking may come to a realization that even when…

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Do Antidepressants Work?

March 15, 2010

There’s been a lot of buzz in the media recently following an article printed in the January issue of JAMA (Journal of the American Medical Association) showing that antidepressants are…

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The Physical Toll of Anger: Keeping Our Hearts in Mind

March 8, 2010

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned”. ~Buddha We all have…

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Firebirds and Feathers: Boys Becoming Men

October 26, 2009

A few years ago I was working with a young college athlete, who was in the midst of deciding whether or not to continue with Track & Field, with “Athletics,”…

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Parenting the Gifted Performer

May 4, 2009

When an archer is shooting for nothing, he has all his skill. If he shoots for a brass buckle, he is already nervous. If he shoots for a prize of…

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Your Loved One is on Psychiatric Medication. Now What?

February 2, 2009

Your partner has been diagnosed with depression and/or anxiety and the doctor has prescribed medication. What does this mean? First, it means that your partner’s symptoms are interfering with his…

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Tips for Parents of Children with Epilepsy

January 12, 2009

Sometimes it seems as if there are only two types of parents with young children: parents who have a child with epilepsy, and parents who worry that their child will…

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“Conversation Hearts” for Valentine’s Day and Everyday

February 12, 2007

NECCO began putting funny little sayings on chalky-tasting candy hearts back in the 1800’s. Maybe you remember them from grade school. Old classics like “Be Mine” and “Truly Yours”. Racy…

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A Dating Guide (For the Married Couple)

January 29, 2007

This is not a guide to help you find suitable people to date, nor is it a guide to the hottest new spots in town. This is a recommendation for…

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Bipolar Disorder: Dispelling the Fears

December 18, 2006

During a recent conversation with colleagues we were struck by the way in which we have begun to think about those clients who are very sensitive to their environments as…

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Understanding Disasters

As the world struggles to understand the recent Tsunami disaster, and reach out to the victims and survivors, many tough questions are being asked. As therapists and researchers, we are…

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Maintaining a Healthy Relationships While Raising Children

December 13, 2004

Raising children is one of the most rewarding and challenging undertakings a couple takes on. It is certainly not easy to raise children today (I’m not sure if it ever…

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Alcohol Use and Abuse

December 13, 2004

The latest numbers released by the National Institute of Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA) indicate that approximately 115 million people regularly ingest alcohol, which is defined as consuming alcohol at…

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Focus on Discipline, and Love Yourself Through the Gradual Process of Change

Recently, my clients have been coming in and talking about not having the discipline to carry out some of the promises they’ve made to themselves: to diet, to exercise, to…

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Couples in Communication

September 26, 2003

Your greatest contribution to effective communication is clarity, focus, and non-defensiveness; your second greatest is support for your partner in providing the same. Here are some specific tips: 1. Take…

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