Author Archive: Wanda Sevey, MDiv, LMFT

4 Jun

The Power of the Personal

The New York Times recently published a short but hopeful essay, "Transference? I'll Take It", by Michelle Huneven about a successful  round of therapy that eventually led her to falling in love and getting married. As a relationship therapist, I often think about the relationships… Read More

10 Jun

Including Yourself in the Equation

When things go well for us at our beginning, we experience ourselves as the most beautiful baby ever born, cute as a button, with the full attention of at least one adult who gazes at us for hours and waits for a sign that we… Read More

23 Jul

Distance that Makes the Heart Grow Fonder

One of the great joys of working with couples in therapy is coaching them on strategies to remove the obstacles that are keeping them from the happy, intimate relationship they are wanting for themselves. It may sound strange but one path to greater closeness is… Read More

11 Jun

Growing Closer

Of all the ways partners can grow closer to one another, the most important one is to speak and listen to one another from their hearts. One sure sign of this kind of communication is when I hear a husband say “I could see that… Read More

14 May

The Unique Needs of Clergy and Their Families

In my work with clergy I’ve seen the effects of the unique pressures and stressors on the leaders of their communities of faith and their relationships with their partners and families. These include: Flexible Relationship Boundaries: Unlike most helping professions a clergy person is invited… Read More