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Relationship Checkup

February 17, 2022

As we flip our calendars to February, the focus on love and romantic relationships intensifies. For some this may feel fun and exciting, but it is not uncommon to feel a mix of emotions about our intimate relationships. There aren’t many Valentine’s Day cards that capture feelings like frustration, anxiety, disappointment, longing, and stuck. Navigating romantic relationships can be complicated and partners can feel lost at times. When it seems like things have gone off course, there are ways to navigate. Council for Relationships’ Relationship Checkup (RCU) program can offer a starting point for answering the below questions.



Where Are We?

Relationships go through stages. A lot of relationships begin with butterflies in your stomach and feeling like you can’t keep your hands off each other. In time, you may have reached the stage in your relationship when you think, “This isn’t how I imagined it would be.” Partners can be so overwhelmed by the stress of life that they have nothing left for their relationship at the end of the day. Some couples find themselves stuck in the same pattern of conflict, or just feel stuck in general, and need something to change. Other couples might report their relationship feels more like a business partnership, and they want to know if a more intimate connection is possible. At any stage, it can be valuable to stop and assess where you are. Just like dropping a pin on a navigation app, “locating” your relationship can provide clarity on where to go next. The Relationship Checkup can create a way to prioritize this conversation so that it has the time it deserves.

Where Do We Go from Here?

Changing course can be challenging for many reasons. Just like when we get turned around on the road, it can be hard to stop and get directions to take a different route. It can be difficult to agree upon how a relationship is functioning. Even with the assistance of GPS, couples can still differ on the route to take. Partners each have their own individual perspectives and that can make coming to a consensus about the relationship’s strengths and needs elusive. Working with a professional outside of your relationship can offer a different perspective that can make all the difference in helping you see and hear each other more clearly. The Relationship Checkup provides the guidance and support of someone who is trained to facilitate these conversations in a safe and productive way.

How Do We Get There?

The Relationship Checkup can help you find a new path forward together regardless of what stage of relationship you are in. Developed by senior staff at Council for Relationships, the Relationship Checkup is a research-based program that has been shown to improve relationship satisfaction. Over the course of three sessions, each an hour long, partners complete a relationship inventory and then review the results with a therapist and together develop an action plan to increase relationship satisfaction. This may be the opportunity that your relationship has been needing to engage each other in a new way. Taking advantage of these sessions can create powerful conversations and clear directions for taking your relationship to new places. The health of your intimate relationship effects all areas of your life. Investing in yourself and your relationship could be the best way to celebrate Valentine’s Day all year.

Register for Council for Relationships’ Relationship Checkup (RCU) program before February 28, 2022 and enjoy a special rate for 3 sessions with one of our graduate-level interns. 

Valentine’s Day Special: $87 Regular Price: $99*

*This rate is for an RCU administered by a closely supervised graduate-level intern. Staff therapists are also available to provide RCUs and their rates vary by provider.

Kimberly Holt, MS, MFT is a Staff Therapist at our Exton, PA and Paoli, PA Offices; she currently sees clients via online therapy. To set-up an appointment, you can reach her at kholt@councilforrelationships.org or 215-382-6680 ext. 4229.